Dr Yatri Thacker, homeopathic physician and stress counsellor, says that in order to deal with anger, people use a variety of conscious and unconscious processes. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive way (but not in an aggressive manner) is the healthiest way to express anger. For this, one has to learn to make clear what their needs are, and how to met them without hurting others. Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding instead it means being respectful of yourself and of others.

Unexpressed anger can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behaviour (for e.g. getting back at people indirectly without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems constantly cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticising everything, and making cynical comments haven’t learned how to constructively express their anger. As a result, they aren’t likely to have m a ny success